If you’ve been overwhelmed or felt discomfort in the past few weeks via the Internet: you are absolutely not alone. So many of us use the Internet to span the vast distances between ourselves and everyone else. But we were never taught how it was designed, how it works, and how to use it in healthy ways. If you are like me, you learned the rapidly accelerating modern landscape of the Internet the old-fashioned way: trial and error. Today, more than ever before, it has become clear how important it is to use the Internet mindfully and intentionally, which requires education on how it affects our emotions.

Social media is pervasive in all aspects of life; even if you don’t use it you’re being influenced by it. From the economy to how people share news, it’s become embedded in every system of modern life. Because of this, if you are using it, it is more important than ever to know how to do so safely and mindfully.

Anxiety is focused one of two things: the past or the future. It is always longing for something better and either trying to solve the puzzle of what went wrong, or it’s fixated on what can be improved further. Can we interrupt the pattern of constant fixing? Can we break the tendency for us to believe that “the grass is always greener on the other side”? Why are we the way that we are? And if we understand it, can we overcome it?

One of my favorite tools comes from Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), an evidence-based therapeutic modality rooted in CBT but goes beyond behaviors and thoughts into values and experiential healing. I’ll share what it is and how to use it, so you can tap in to this amazing reframe and transform your anxiety into useful information.

“I’m burned out” is the number one reason I hear when doing a consultation with my clients. Many of us have seen the term and identify with the metaphor—burning every ounce of fuel and feeling left with nothing but a smoldering pile of ashes, trying to muster enough spark to get up and do the same thing again tomorrow. We feel burned. But what actually qualifies as burnout? What are people experiencing when they are reaching this point of no return? And what can be done to change it?

If you imagined the Internet as a person, how would your relationship be with them? If it was a friend of yours, how would you describe them? How would you feel about them?

I work with primarily Asian-American clients and the majority of my friends and family are in this community as well. Though we come from different cultural backgrounds and ethnicities, we share many collective and traditional values—especially when it comes to how to build trust.

When I became a therapist, and I started to ask myself a very simple question: Who helps the helpers? What about us? How can we sustain if we don’t have help ourselves? Who helps those who dedicate their lives to helping others?